Archive for March 6, 2009

Should We Give Our Kids What We Didn’t Get Growing Up?

Posted in Uncategorized on March 6, 2009 by mboyle1959

I think it is every parents dream ( at least for those of us who grew up in middle class or lower situations) to give our kids the things we didn’t have growing up. I think this is actually a huge mistake. I want to give my kids the values my father and mother gave me. The “helicopter parents” of today hover over their kids, do their homework, write their essays and talk to their teachers because they want the best for their kids. However, I’m not sure if this is what is best for kids. My father made me address every adult as Mr. or Mrs., expected me to say please and thank you, and let me use his snowblower to make money in the winter and his rake to make money in the fall and spring. Ever try to find a kid to shovel snow or rake a leaf? Might as well head out back and hunt unicorns.

I think the best thing you can do for your kid is give them a dose of real life. Make them work  a summer job when they are 16. When they are 13 or 14 make sure they rake leaves and shovel snow. Take away their cell phone or get one with three numbers ( you, 911 plus one more) and no texting. If they get a car, get a _ _ it box instead of a BMW. Their is so much we learned from our parents that made us successful that we are not passing on to our kids. What we are giving them is a sense of entitlement they don’t deserve.